There was a very famous example back in the 90's of a net being shot out of an air cannon, flying through the air and landing stretched out and small explosives in each node would explode. Impressive as h*ll at that time.
If I remember correct it would have been Brett Harris who build that model. I don't think Brett follows this forum, but @Greg Wheeler might be able to contact him to see if there is any example.
When I have done it, I simply have created an Sforce between each node(part) in the net with each of it's 4 neighbors.
Sforce function = step(DM(m1,m2),L0,0,L0+eps,k*(L0-DM(m1,m2)-c*VR(m1,m2))
where m1 and m2 are the markers on two nodes next to each other, L0 the free length of the thread between the two nodes and k and c the stiffness of the thread between the nodes.
Don't try to build it interactively, but writing a command file to create the whole net is not that complicated.